The Case for Death Positivity
Choosing a death-positive mindset is not about diminishing grief or pretending that death isn’t difficult. Instead, it’s about making space for honest, compassionate, and thoughtful conversations about what matters most in life and beyond.
1. Reduces Fear and Anxiety
When we acknowledge and accept the reality of death, we begin to remove the fear surrounding it. Talking about death openly helps us understand that while loss is painful, it is also a natural part of existence. It allows us to approach the topic with curiosity instead of avoidance, peace instead of panic.
2. Encourages Meaningful Planning
A death-positive mindset reminds us that we have the power to shape what happens after we’re gone. Instead of leaving behind uncertainty, we can make intentional decisions about our estate, legacy, and end-of-life care.
Who do we want to inherit our assets?
How do we want to be remembered?
What values do we want to pass down to our loved ones?
These are not just legal questions—they are emotional and deeply personal choices that reflect who we are and what we cherish.
3. Strengthens Connections with Loved Ones
Talking about death can feel vulnerable, but it also creates space for deeper relationships. When we discuss our wishes openly with those we love, we relieve them of the burden of uncertainty. Instead of wondering what we would have wanted, they will have the gift of clarity, knowing they are honoring our choices.
Conversations about death can also spark beautiful reflections on life—our happiest memories, our proudest moments, our hopes for the future. They allow us to say the things that matter before it’s too late.
How to Practice Death Positivity
If you’re new to the concept of death positivity, you might be wondering: Where do I begin? Here are a few simple steps to help you embrace a more open, thoughtful approach to mortality:
1. Start Small: Talk About It
Bring up the topic of death in a gentle, organic way. You don’t have to plan an entire conversation around it—sometimes, it starts with a simple reflection, such as:
“I’ve been thinking about what I’d want my loved ones to remember about me. Have you ever thought about that?”
“I read something about end-of-life planning, and it made me realize how important it is to have those conversations. What are your thoughts?”
Starting with curiosity and openness helps remove the discomfort from the conversation.
2. Plan Ahead: Create an Estate Plan That Reflects Your Wishes
A death-positive mindset isn’t just philosophical—it’s practical. Ensuring you have an up-to-date estate plan, a healthcare directive, and clear instructions for your loved ones is an act of love, empowerment, and responsibility.
3. Celebrate Life While You’re Living
Death positivity isn’t just about preparing for the end—it’s about making the most of right now. Knowing that our time is finite reminds us to:
Tell people we love them
Spend time doing what brings us joy
Leave behind not just wealth, but wisdom, stories, and meaning
A Loving, Intentional Legacy
At Laurel, we believe that estate planning is about so much more than legal documents—it’s about ensuring that your values, your love, and your life story endure. Death positivity invites us to plan with clarity and compassion, to make choices rooted in love instead of fear, and to leave behind not just an inheritance, but a legacy of care, connection, and intention.
If you’re ready to take control of your future and provide peace of mind for your loved ones, we’re here to help you create an estate plan that reflects your heart, your wishes, and your unique journey.
